Guide To Thai Bar Girls

Thailand is famous for being one of the top sex tourism destinations in the world, and that’s largely because of the Thai bar girls.

Their beauty, charm and sexy bodies keep men coming back for more.

If you’re planning a trip to Thailand and want to know about the bar girls, this guide has all the info you need.

I’ll cover everything from prices to where to meet them, and how it all works.

 

What is a Thai Bar Girl

Bar girls, including hostesses and gogo dancers, are women aged 18 and above who work at bars and adult nightlife venues in Thailand.

Their job is to entertain male customers by dancing, chatting, and getting them to buy drinks.

Many of these girls also work as prostitutes, and customers can pay a “bar fine” to spend time with them outside the bar.

The duration she stays with you depends on whether you’re taking her short time or long time service. If short and long time aren’t clear to you, at the end of this article you can find the terminology used in the bars.

The vast majority of Thai bar girls are from Isaan, in the north-east of the country, which is among some of the poorest areas in Thailand. These girls travel to Samui,

These girls travel to Koh Samui, Pattaya, Phuket to work in the bars to earn money and support their families back home.

Sometimes several generations of one family could be dependent on this money.

 

Do They Only Offer Company With Drinks or Also Offer Sex?

When you’re at a bar with a girl, you can buy her what’s called a “lady drink.”

These drinks are usually priced higher than regular ones because the bar girl gets a commission on each sale. The idea is that by buying her a drink, you’re paying for her company and time at the bar.

Keep in mind, lady drinks do not cover anything beyond her company. Even if you spend hundreds of dollars on drinks, you need to pay a bar fine and her fee to have sex with her.

Most bars require customers to at least buy one lady drink before they can bar fine the girl. But if you’re in your 50s or 60s I would actually recommend spending some money on lady drinks.

Girls often expect men in this age bracket to be wealthy. The more you spend, the more she will respect you and try to please you afterwards.

I’m not saying you should blow your life savings. Just buying a few drinks for her and her friends would be enough for her to treat you like a king.

 

Do They Offer a Girlfriend Experience?

Yes, you can definitely get a girlfriend experience (GFE) from bar girls.

You’ll have to negotiate the bar fine with the mamasan, and the price will depend on the popularity of the girl. But I suggest not bar fine her for more than three days.

But instead of just staying with her overnight, which is like a hookup, the sweet spot is to bar fine her for a few days.

No more then 3 days!

After that, they usually figure out your soft spots, and look for ways to extract as much money from you as possible.

It could be in the form of gifts, shopping sprees or fancy dinners, they’ll start leeching on your funds.

No matter how “romantic” the time spent with her might look, at the end of the day, it’s all business for her.

So, if you want to keep things fun without it getting too complicated, three days is the sweet spot.

Anything longer and you’ll likely find yourself constantly dealing with her demands.

Instead in the first few days she’ll work hard to make you happy and impress you. That means serving you food, listening to everything you say and pleasing you in bed.

 

Dating/Marrying a Thai Bar Girl

Often happen tourists confuse the girlfriend experience with the natural next stage: dating and then marriage.

Do I recommend it? Hell no.

The reason is, when you date/marry a bar girl, you’re not just getting her, but also her entire family.

Most of these girls are broke and stuck in a cycle of sending most of their money back to their families.

If you do start dating one, don’t expect her to quit her job unless you’re ready to take over the role of supporting her family.

Now, I know this might not be a deal breaker for some of you. In many Asian cultures, it’s normal for men to help out their partner’s family.

But besides the money issues, dating a bar girl brings along many other complications.

While they may be charming and eager to please when you meet them, living with them day-to-day is a different story.

These girls are used to a specific lifestyle, spending their days surrounded by friends at the bar, drinking, partying, and waking up late after getting wasted.

The first few days or weeks might be great, but over time, you’ll start noticing a shift in her behavior. The excitement will wear off, and she may start complaining or getting bored easily.

So instead of going through all the trouble, it’s just better to find a girl through a dating site.

 

Prices For Drinks, Sex and Playing Games

The prices kind of vary depending on the bar, but I’ll give you a rough estimate so you can bargain and don’t look like an amateur.

Drinks

Most agogo and girlie bars in Thailand charge 200-300 for lady drinks, while your drink would be around 100-200.
She will keep you accompanied and play games with you.

Once you stop purchasing drinks, she probably won’t stay too long, so keep an eye on your tab.

Then there are others who’ll drink slower, hang out, and keep you company without running up the tab. Make sure to tip these girls!

Short Time

You’ll pay around 300-2000 baht as the bar fine, then another 2000-4000 baht to the girl, depending on the time of day.

She’ll take you either upstairs, to a nearby motel, or your hotel for the session.

Like I said earlier, short time is a quickie. She has to return to the bar to sell more lady drinks and get more short times to earn as much as she can during peak hours.

As soon as you pop she will leave. Unless, you’ve negotiated an extra shot with her.

Long Time

The bar fine remains the same at 300-2000 baht, and you need to pay 3,000-6000 baht to the girl for the whole night.

Do whatever you want with her whether it’s going to fancy restaurants, shopping or playing games. The hot girls in high demand or working in busy bars won’t agree for a long time before 9-10pm.

Note: One brain-dead stipulation imposed by many A GoGo bars nowadays is that a girl has to make a certain number of drinks before being bar fined.

So if you’re really into her then you will have to pay for additional lady drinks.

 

Where to Meet Bar Girls in Thailand

You can meet bar girls at many places, such as gogo bars, girlie bars, and gentlemen’s clubs.

These types of venues are all over Thailand, but they’re especially common in cities like:

Pattaya is a literal whore town with prostitutes pretty much everywhere you go especially in main areas like Walking Street and Soi 6..

You’ll find hundreds of girls there lined up, waiting to get fucked.

Bangkok has three main red light districts and two less known by tourists. The biggest one is Sukhumvit Soi 4, known for Nana Plaza.

It has 30+ gogo bars with girls mostly working as hostesses, dancing semi-naked.

Phuket has many beer and gogo bars with most of them located on Bangla Road. It’s a long party strip and one of the busiest areas on the Island.  

Chiang Mai isn’t as active as the other two cities, and you’ll only find a handful of gogo bars. Most of them are located on Loi Kroh Road. 

 

Thai Bar Girl’s Conversation

Conversation with many Thai bar girls, especially those with limited language skills, might consist of only a few predictable and unimaginable questions such as “where you come from?”, “can you buy me a drink?”, and “you come here alone?”.

Foreigners that can speak Thai to any reasonable extent should already know there is often much more to bar girls than meets the eye.

Most of them are natural, fun-loving bunch that have fallen on some hard times in the past, and are earning good money perhaps the only way they can. It’s certainly more lucrative than a menial factory job or working in the rice fields back home.

My top tip, is you should have as much fun with your lady as possible. Talk, laugh and play. Keep the conversations short and simple; never embarrass her, especially by her lack of English. Make her want you! If you can do this, then whatever time you spend together, and whatever price you pay, you will have an even greater time.

Also remember, you are in “lust” – not in love. Keep your relationship simple and remember:

There is a saying among expats who know bar girls pretty well and its – As soon as a bar girl opens her mouth, she’s lying. And that pretty well sums most of them up. By all means, have fun with Thai bar girls, just watch your money closely.

 

Terminology in The Girlie Bars in Thailand

The Thai bars have their own set of terminology with phrases such as ‘beer bar’, ‘go-go bar’, ‘mamasan’, ‘lady drink’, ‘bar fine’, ‘short time’, ‘long time’, ‘GFE’, ‘freelancer’, ‘butterfly’ and many more.

Beer Bar – these are simple open sided bars often grouped in complexes. Most of these complexes are in the sois (side streets) off Bangla Road in Patong. There are stools around the bar and there are usually a couple of poles on the bar for the girls to dance around.

The customers stroll around the complex until they choose a bar or are dragged to a bar by the girls working there.

The girls will then try to sell themselves to the customer by talking to him or entertaining him with bar games. Typical games are connect-four, jenga, dice games and hammering nails into a block of wood race.

Go-Go Bar – these are indoor bars where the girls dance on stages or on the bar.

The girls usually wear bikinis – they are no longer allowed to dance topless although it may still happen if the bar thinks the authorities are not taking notice.

The girls have numbers and customers can request a girl they like by number.

Mamasan – a woman who manages the girls working in a bar. Only the big bars and Ago-gos will have a mamasan. She will be an older woman who demands respect from the younger girls. She will be responsible for recruiting new girls, making sure the girls work well and liaising with customers.

Lady Drink – a drink that a customer buys for a girl. These will usually cost 30-90 baht above the normal bar price. The bar pays the extra to the girl as a reward for selling the drink.

Effectively, you are not only buying the girl a drink but also giving her a tip.

Bar Fine – the fee charged by a bar for taking a girl from that establishment.

The beer bars charge between 300 to 500 baht.

The money is for the bar – seen as an introduction fee and recompense for the bar losing a worker for the night. The bar may pay a percentage of the bar fine to the girl but the customer still needs to pay the girl for her company.

The Ago-gos charge higher bar fines. Some Ago-gos will ask for 3000 baht or more but this usually also includes the payment to the girl so the customer does not need to pay her directly.

Check out my bar fine guide for more info.

Short Time – short time is hardly one or two hours, they also refer to it as “one or two shots”.
Just so you know, they’re not talking about shots of tequila. It’s the number of times you will ejaculate. Mostly, you pop once and it’s over.

The beer bar complexes and go-go bars often have short time rooms at the back of the premises.

The customer will pay a bar fine, a charge for the room and an agreed price to the girl for her services (500 to 1,000-baht).

When they are finished, the girl will return to work while the customer moves on to his next port of call.

Long Time – the customer will take the girl for the night (a ‘long time’) usually back to his hotel room. The payment to the girl is normally 1,000 to 2,000-baht.

Some of the more up-market hotels do not allow overnight guests while others will charge a guest fee. (See the bottom of the page for some ‘guest friendly’ hotels.)

GFE – Girl Friend Experience. This is where the man takes the girl for the full length of his holiday and treats her like his girlfriend. The girl will act as a companion and guide. They will go to restaurants together, take day trips together and generally act like boyfriend and girlfriend.

Of course, the girl is still working and the man pays for everything and pays the girl for her time. The bar where the girl works will probably expect to receive a bar fine for every day the girl stays with the man. Many a romance has blossomed from the GFE and sometimes it develops into the WE (wife experience).

This may be followed by the divorce experience and the going home with no money experience.

Freelancer – a girl that does not work from a specific bar. These girls will pick up customers at nightclubs or off the street hence saving the customer paying a bar fine. Freelancers are often attractive girls who are confident they can pick up men without the advantage of a work base.

They may therefore charge more than bar girls. They are also considered less trustworthy as they are harder to track down in cases of theft from the customer.

Butterfly – someone, male or female, who flirts around from one partner to the next.

 

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