If you want to meet and date quality Japanese girls, your best bet is to use a dating site. Dating online isn’t a taboo in Japan, but a practical way to meet single girls.
It’s well known that most Japanese women aren’t interested in foreign men because of the language barrier and culture. But there is a group of girls known as ‘gaijin hunters’ that grave to meet you.
While you are here searching for sexy Japanese girls, the gaijin hunters are on their laptops or phones searching for foreign men.
They are using dating sites as we speak, and the most popular is called “Seeking”. In this article, I’m going to tell you how to make the most out of it…
Why Use Seeking?
It’s the easiest way for single guys visiting any city in Japan or expatriate living here to get to know Japanese women who are into foreign men…
It doesn’t matter if you are in your 20s or in your 40s, there are young girls for guys in their 20s and a fair share of 30+ women for older men.
What is the point of trying to pick up girls in the nightclubs or bars when you can easily meet Japanese girls online? They are on this dating site for the same reason as you, it’s a win-win situation.
Seeking is perfect for tourists who are visiting Japan for a holiday and want to meet local girls along the way. You can find yourself a local holiday girlfriend showing you around during the day and a lover at night.
In fact, meeting girls online is much easier than approaching girls in clubs and bars. You don’t need to come up with pick up lines and confront women in a foreign environment.
On my last visit, I jumped on the site 3 weeks before landing. I set up around 11 dates, ending up meeting 5 girls and slept with 4 of them. It’s a number game.
I would never be able to do that by randomly picking up girls in Japanese social venues.
Doesn’t matter if you are trying to find a Japanese woman for a relationship or simply want to get laid. This site will be your best resource.
Are Girls Beautiful & Hot For Action?
Like any other social place, there are many types of girls online: sexy, cute, serious, fun, tall, small, not hot girls. It’s a mixed bag, but a big one.
You can scroll through hundreds of Japanese girls in seconds and start a conversation right away. No need to hesitate or be scared of rejection, just say “hi” and the game is on.
The site lets you filter girls based on location, so whether you’re going to Tokyo or Hiroshima or any other city, the search filter makes it super easy to find local girls.
But the best part is girls on this dating site are always hot for action, that’s the main reason why they are there. Like you, they want to meet someone to spice up their life.
How To Get Started…
Sign up on Seeking’s home page. Upload a few nice photos where you are groomed, well dressed and look at best. Not drunk, stoned or posing in front of a Maserati that isn’t yours 🙂
Fill your profile with an honest view about your life, what you are looking for in a woman… and keep it brief. Add a few Japanese words in your profile (use Google Translate), just add something simple like “Hello” or “How Are you”.
I find this gets more reply from the girls as they are surprised that you know a little bit of Japanese. Then just tell them you’re trying to learn it, that is a real turn-on for them.
Once your images and profile are up, within the day you should receive a few messages and interests. But be proactive, message a few girls by letting them know a little about yourself.
Don’t overthink what to write, Japanese girls are so friendly and they are not going to judge you for anything you write.
One more tip, take the paid membership option on Seeking for two reasons:
- you can’t chat with the girls without gold/platinum membership
- when upgrading your membership, your profile gets verified landing you more attention and response from the girls
Build your list of potential candidates that you would like to meet, and once in Japan, just hook up with them.
The girls love it when you take them to a sky bar because it set a romantic atmosphere where you can make your first move.
If you like local food, ask the girl to take you to eat Japanese.
Don’t be afraid to take her back to your room or to a love hotel on the first date. By chatting with her on the dating site you have already build up enough attraction and trust, the date is only a means to go physical about it.
Would The Site Work For Me?
If you are on your seniors year (40-50) and traveling alone, it’s easier to meet someone in their late 30’s and early 40’s. The age gap is modest.
But if you would like to meet girls in their 20s, you should be open and say you’ll pay for everything and give them a little extra. Why would they want to date you when they can date younger guys? (Sorry, not being mean).
Another concern is the gold diggers. The site does a good job to look for fake profiles and scammers but there are still a few bad apples.
If they message you first, they sound too eager to meet… Or their profile photo looks too good to be true, well probably is too good to be true.
In conclusion, this site works very well either you are a young guy or an older man or with hair or bold. Your physical appearance isn’t much important as your personality.
If you think dating online is something you would like to explore more, you can create a Seeking account here.