Indonesian girls are a kinda of more reserved compare to Thais and Filipinas, while the nightlife scene isn’t as open as in other South East Asian countries.
The good thing is those Indonesian girls are very eager to meet you.
The only problem is they don’t feel comfortable talking in public places or in the presence of their friends if don’t know you very well.
It’s a cultural thing.
Also, the ladies are not so direct in expressing their feelings. Don’t expect a traditional Indonesian girl to kiss you in public, sort of.
So if you’re planning to visit Indonesia hoping to pick up girls in malls, clubs or street with the same ease as in Thailand or the Philippines, then you are setting up yourself for failure.
I don’t doubt you know this already but it bears repeating: Indonesia is a Muslim country.
Approaching Indonesian girls is usually done “conservatively” while any sign of affection or touching is “strictly” behind closed doors.
It might sound intimidating at first, but let me tell you that is an intriguing experience to do things that are TABOO.
Finally, there’s an answer for the solo traveler. It’s simple, it’s convenient and it works.
It all comes down to this: meet hundreds of girls behind “closed doors” on the handful Indonesian dating websites.
So, today, I’m reviewing the 3 best Indonesian dating sites to meet girls genuinely interested in foreign men for either a long term relationship or a night stand.
Yes, there are working and non-working girls on these sites.
In my experience, most girls are looking for a serious relationship, but if you’re a man traveling for business or only pleasure, you can find girls for short rental.
Before getting started, a word of caution: “Like in any other parts of the world, the dating scene in Indonesia has scammers and gold diggers in the mix.”
But don’t let this hold you back. While there are few “bad” members, there are far more good minded girls. The truth is, there are some absolutely wonderful girls out there.
The only question is: “Are you serious enough?”
Don’t get me wrong. Most men give up to the first try.
When looking for a good Indonesian girl, you’ll need to be patient. The secret here is just to take your time and not to rush into sexual conversations.
Without further ado, let’s explore the 3 best dating sites in Indonesia that will help you find true love or anything else, for that matter 🙂
Indonesian Cupid is my favorite dating site because is an excellent balance between quantity of members, quality, and affordability.
You can chat with girls 24/7. There are always a few hundred girls online anytime I log in; yesterday at 7 pm there were 522 women online.
You can filter the girls by location which is convenient if you have already plan your holiday in a particular destination in Indonesia.
Some girl speaks better English than others, but in general is good practice to use unsophisticated phrases or concepts. Keep it simple and sweet.
Having said that, however, you’ll be surprised to meet many educated girls working professional jobs such lawyer, accountant or secretary with excellent English language knowledge.
If you would like to meet university girls, there are a good number of girls looking to improve their English if you don’t mind being a teacher.
Here my story: I once met a student from Bandung that wanted practice English with a foreigner for her business administration degree.
Very cute, small body and a lovely attitude.
We become friends and eventually, I went for a week-long holiday around West Java with her. Just imagine the feeling to feel young again by going around with a young love caring student. It feels like the good old school days.
She was so happy to practice her English with me, and I was so happy teaching her all the good and bad things.
A WIN-WIN situation.
Who is behind this site?
CupidMedia Group who owns a broad range of niche websites focus on dating.
This is the best Indonesian dating site out there, with an emphasis in detecting scammers.
The platform is robust, friendly and easy to use.
They have got a translation service with their Gold package (US$24.99 per month) that can be handy if your English isn’t so great.
P.S For higher search rankings and video messaging capability go Platinum for US$29.99 so you can jump ahead of the pack.
This site is popular in Asia, not particularly target to Indonesia so don’t expect as many girls as on IndonesiaCupid.
It’s easy to navigate, use and you can meet a wide range of girls of any age.
This site doesn’t have a detention system for scammers, so follow your guts when scanning the profiles.
Just ask yourself: “Is it too good to be truth?”
This site being free don’t offer the privilege to rank your profile higher in the search ranking, so you need to work harder in attracting the “right” girls.
Get used spending a lot of time in weeding low-quality profiles.
Badoo isn’t a dating site but a social network. It’s a kinda of Facebook where people hang around to meet friends.
It works best when you’re are already in Indonesia because you can install the application on your phone and search for girls nearby.
Only a small percentage of people on Badoo are there for dating, but instead looking for friendship… And here is where things get complicated.
You never know if the girls you’re chatting with are open to a relationship or just looking for friendship.
Look, it’s nice to meet new people, but did you travel all the way to Indonesia to make friends?
If you’re planning to spend few months in Indonesia, Badoo is a great tool to meet girls with similar interests.
There’s always the potential for flirting or dating along the way. Anyway, nothing wrong trying it out.
The functions are good for a free member, you can send text messages to a small number of people every day. Paid members can get access to more profiles.
My Thoughts About Indonesian Dating Sites
If you’re looking for quality girls in Indonesia, online dating is by far the simpler and best way to go.
Overall, 60% of the girls are looking for serious relationship. Another 30% is looking for a night stand or in other words: having a discrete adventure with a foreigner just for FUN. And less than 10% is looking for money and a SugarDaddy.
Depending on which dating site or application you use, you can pretty much chat with any type of women you could think of:
- Office girls
- Single moms
- Ethnicity or religion.
I wish you all the best in searching your dream Indonesian lady. There are so many beautiful and willing out there.