sex guide in japan

Japan Sex Guide For Single Men

If you want to find sex in Japan, then you’re reading the right guide. This guide walks you through everything you need to know about getting laid in Japan.

You’ll find out the best places for sexual experiences as well as the best ways to find casual sex. Plain and simple, the purpose of this guide is to show you where to go, what to do and how it’s done in Japan.

I don’t talk about how to find a sugar baby in Japan because I wrote already a dedicated article.

This Sex Guide to Japan was last updated on 31 March 2022



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How To Meet Sexy Girls in Japan
Best sites and apps to meet Japanese girls

Intro to Sex Tourism in Japan
General information about Japan sex culture

Where to Find Sex in Japan
An overview of the best places to get laid in Japan

Typical Costs + Tips
General prices in Japan to help you budget your adventure

How To Have Sex In Japan
Get laid with girls and couples

Top Cities To Get Laid in Japan With Japanese Women
Best destinations to fuck Japanese girls


How To Meet Sexy Girls in Japan

Japanese girls not only are beautiful but also sexy, they know how to turn on a man.

With their feminine manners and naughty sexual mentality is a contrast hard to resist…

Japanese girl online

Yet, they’re pretty much conservative when it comes to socializing with foreigners in public.

For this reason, it’s hard to approach Japanese girls in social places. They feel too shy to speak with a stranger, even more, if he is a foreigner.

But there is another way to socialize with Japanese girls. There are sites that Japanese girls use to meet with foreign men.

At the moment, the most popular sites are Seeking Arrangement and Asian Match Mate.

On Seeking you’ll find many hot students, while on Asian Match Mate you’ll find singles and couples for no string attached sex.

To get started, you can sign up for free. Then create a profile by writing about yourself and what you’re looking for.

It won’t take long before finding the right girl for your needs.

What About Girls And Sex In Japan

Japan’s sex culture is very open-minded because sex isn’t seen as guilty, shameful, or taboo.

On top of that, only vaginal intercourse is considered cheating for a married woman or illegal by the law for a prostitute. Meaning that any other act isn’t a problem.

For example, happens to have sex with a married woman that refused to have vaginal intercourse because it’s the exclusive property of her husband. Yet, she might not mind having anal sex or sucking you off.

And because sex in Japan is regarded as a natural urge, it isn’t considered acceptable only in a relationship but as a human need. Meaning for Japanese sex isn’t any different than basic needs like food, water and sleep.

As a result, once you hook up with a girl, the next natural step is to have sex.

There are many Japanese women known as gaijin hunters that crave to get laid with foreign men… And they are your best opportunity to have sex in Japan. Usually, they are well-traveled girls that have studied abroad.

You can also find cougar women ready to spend on you for casual sex…

sexy Japanese girl in the bedroom

It’s no secret that many married Japanese ladies have no sex with their husbands. Meaning they are left starving for sexual attention… And don’t let me started with divorced women.

They are your best opportunity to have sex in Japan because they’re either searching for a discreet affair or don’t feel comfortable having sex with Japanese men.

What about sex and Japanese women?

Women in Japan are generally open to the idea of having sex with strangers and it’s common to get laid on the first date. That’s why there are so many love hotels around the country.

Having sex with a Japanese woman is an unforgettable experience, it’s hard to find women so devoted and submissive.

They hardly say no to any sexual activities. Actually, they get really turned on when you’re sexually adventurous. Feel comfortable playing with toys like vibrators and dildos, they are an essential part of Japanese sexual activities.


Intro To Sex Tourism In Japan

Japan isn’t as famous as Thailand sex tourism mostly because the sex industry is self-contained to Japanese users. But in recent years, the Japanese sex scene has opened up to foreigner men too.

Although prostitution is illegal by Japanese law, the law only defines that as vaginal intercourse. Sex service providers loophole the law by offering everything except vaginal intercourse.

Meaning you can legally get blow jobs and anal sex, but you should abstain from vaginal sex. It’s weird, but it’s how things work.

Yet, the most interesting part is Japan is the most lustful country in the world. While Sex is portrayed openly and widely accepted in the culture without shame or guilt.

For example, the thriving sex industry is for the most part fairly out in the open…

You can find kinky stuff in the most unexpected places like shopping malls and in the city center.

Japanese women are extremely open-minded to try most sexual things and are submissive and devoted to man’s pleasure.

Even having sex with a prostitute feels like doing it with a girlfriend, not a working girl.

Japanese prostitutes embed the cultural motto that the ‘customer is king’… And most J-girls take it as a personal goal to perform the very best in customer service.

You’ll get blown away by the sexual service in the country. She’ll hug and kiss you before starting the sexual service… And give you pleasure not only on a physical level but also on an emotional level.

Yet, sex workers are human after all, and it happens the service isn’t up to expectations sometimes. Anyway, you should always be respectful and keep cool because expressing anger is considered rude.

You may be off-put by the idea of constantly having to be nice and friendly, but it’s how mongering in Japan works.

Unfortunately, we are not on equal footing with Japanese customers. They can go to a shop drunk, be foul-mouthed while rude, and still get serviced. We just can’t do that as foreigners.

When going for sex services in Japan, be aware of businesses without a website or with no reputation. A few places are manipulative-forward tourists.

One search and you will come across crazy stories on how tourists were drugged, had their credit cards maxed out, and worse.

The good thing is you don’t need necessarily to pay for sex if you want to get laid in Japan. There are a few adult apps and sites that let you get in contact with horny girls and couples.


Where to Find Sex in Japan

You are traveling to Japan because you want to get laid with beautiful local girls but you don’t know where to get started.

Here the best places to hook up with Japanese girls for sex, starting with…

1. Online

japanese girl sex japan online

The best way as a foreigner to find sex friends in Japan is on Asian Match Mate. It’s a community of open-minded people that love to explore sexual experiences.

You can find milfs hot for action (usually they are married)… Young girls are too busy for a serious relationship that needs to unstress with a good fuck… And couples looking for a bull.

2. Nightclubs & Pick Up Bars

If you’re a young and fit guy that loves partying, drinking and hook up with girls, you should focus on gaijin-friendly nightlife venues. They aren’t a good fit for older and laid back men.

It’s easy to hook up with party girls, but keep in mind that in Japan touching or kissing in public is seen as a creepy act.

Hold on your horses, just have a good time with the girls and go with the flow. At the end of the night, go for a love hotel or back to your room and she will follow your lead.

If this is your type of game, the best nightlife and sexy girls interested in foreign men can be found in Tokyo and Osaka.

3. Pink Salon

Pink salon in red light district in Japan

Most cities in Japan have a red light district where you can find paid sex. And that means there are always pink salons where you can get a blow job in Japan.

Some might offer full intercourse besides blow jobs, but it isn’t guaranteed. And don’t ask the question to the manager because they are not legally allowed to say yes. By asking it shows that you don’t know much about how things work here.

And that’s the main reason why most pink salons don’t accept foreigners who don’t speak the Japanese language.

The standard rate for a BJ starts at 3.000 yen up to 13.000 yen.

4. Escorts – Call Girls

Japanese escort girl in Tokyo

In Japan escorts are called “hotel delivery health” or just “deli-heru”. There are plenty of these services out there, but most are for Japanese. Look for websites and flyers written in English as they are a safe bet to serve foreigners.

For example, Asian Mystique is a good option in Tokyo that serves foreigners.

Prices for a decent escort in Japan start at 14.000 yen up to 70.000 yen per hour.

5. Soaplands – Japan Sex Massage

japanese sex massage girl in a soapland

Soaplands are bathhouses that offer sex services. A nude masseur bath and please you.

The interesting thing is their special bath chair called “sukebe isu”. There is a hole in the middle where the girl can lick your balls and anus.

The full service lasts for 40-120 minutes with rates from 13.000 yen to 80.000 yen.

Soaplands in Japan used to not welcome foreign visitors, but now they begin to relax. High-class soaplands are still off-limits

6. Strip Clubs

Until three years ago you could walk into a Japanese sex club, watch a striptease and have sex with the dancers.

Nowadays, you can only watch the girls stripping and taking a photo with their bikinis on…

stripper in japan sex club

The reason sex clubs got teamed down is they carry health risks for workers and customers.

The shows are entraining and usually last 1-2 hours for a modest 3.000-7.000 yen entrance fee. If you have spare time, consider a visit.


Typical Costs In Japan

• Sex

Pay for sex in Japan isn’t cheap. It seems to be too much demand and not enough girls.

If you go for quality services like soaplands or deli-heru, expect to blow between 14.000 to 70.000 yen. Soaplands are erotic bathhouses while deli-heru are call girls.

A cheaper option is to get a blowjob or handjob in a brothel for about 3.000-5.000 yen. That’s all that is in an offer for paid sex.

Fortunately, there are several ways to hook up with everyday girls for a free fuck and a lot of cuddles.

• Entertainment

The nightlife scene is costly. Expect to pay a 2.000-4.000 yen entrance fee in most nightclubs and 1.000 yen for a drink. It isn’t unusual to spend 10.000 yen for a night out in Japan.

• Accommodation

There are the infamous love hotels that charge 3.000-7.000 per day. Regular accommodations on the low spectrum are 3.000 yen per night, international hotels start at 12.000 yen.

• Food

Japanese food is awesome! You can eat for as little as 1.000 yen for a set menu up to 30.000 yen for a steak of wagyu beef.

• Transportation

The Japanese transport system is huge and difficult to navigate even for locals. Between cities, the way to go is by train, and it isn’t cheap.

Within the cities buy a metro card that lets you use several services starting at 160 yen up to 330 yen.

Taxi is expensive with fares starting at 400 yen.


Tips & Tricks

Build a List of Girls: Don’t arrive in Japan unprepared, get in contact with girls and couples by using this site/app.

• Be on Point: Japenese girls want to fuck as much as you, so be straightforward: “Hello cutie -) My name is XXX and your profile caught my attention. Let’s meet up… Are you up for it?

• Have a Few Back-Up: Most girls show up for the date, but sometimes unexpected events happen. So set up 2-3 dates in a day.

• Sleep at her Place: There are several mature women on dating sites that are more than happy to have you as their guest for a few days. That way you fuck more, experience Japanese hospitality and sleep for free.

• Polite and Calm: Japanese girls give a lot of importance to the way you treat them, so be nice and polite if you want to have a good time.


How To Have Sex In Japan

If you want to fuck in Japan, I’m going to show you the easiest way to go about it. Many foreign men struggle to find sex only because they don’t understand how things work here.

To start, most Japanese women and couples aren’t interested to have sex with foreign men. So, you need to search only in those places where the Japanese look for foreign men.

Then, depending if you’re after a one time sex or prefer to get into a continuous sex relationship.

For example, for one time sex, you want to visit the red light districts or book an escort. But if you want to have sex periodically, you are better off joining a sex community of open-minded Japanese.

One Time Sex (Paid Sex)

When you need just sex relief, your best option is to visit the red light areas. Every city in Japan has red-light areas with all sorts of sex entrainments, from the soapland to the pink salon.

Not all the places are foreign-friendly, so you should inform yourself which ones are. An alternative is to bring a Japanese friend with you, that way the doorman might let you in.

Having sex in a sex venue is only a matter to pay the fee and have fun.

Casual Sex With Singles and Couples

The best way to find sex in Japan is to use a site like Asian Match Mate. Plenty of horny ladies and couples around Japan interested in foreign men.

This site is a community of open-minded people that enjoy having casual sex. No need to go on dates or waste time in useless chats. Just create a profile and write what you’re looking for a hook up.


Top Cities To Get Laid in Japan with Japanese Women

Sex in Tokyo – The most foreign-friendly city in Japan.

The amount of sexy girls and sexual entrainments is outstanding. If it’s your first time in Japan, Tokyo is a must.

Sex in Kyoto – The city has 3 well known red light areas.

The Japanese girls here are friendly and welcoming. If you prefer a more Japanese intimate experience, Kyoto is for you.

Sex in Osaka – The second biggest city in Japan.

There are red light and nightlife areas to hook up with everyday Japanese girls.

Sex in Kawasaki – It’s an unfriendly destination for foreigners.

If you want to enjoy yourself and have a chance to hook up, you need to speak some basic Japanese.


Best Cities to Meet Japanese Girls

This concludes the Japan Sex Guide. Have fun!